I have had this "complex" ever since I was young, I think I developed it by being the guy who always stood between most of my friends in a fight. Either with their parents, their friends, my other friends, or whomever. I was the one trying to smooth things out. Their were many times were I ended up the object of scrutiny, but not as many times as I saved someone from doing something they might soon regret I have been told. Life for me in a very realistic sense left me thriving on intense interactions between people.
I hated the situations and still wish everyone could just get along, but in the end I guess I can say I felt accomplished as a problem solver growing up and generally comfortable in my role as a mediator between two or more people. I never had great advice to give I feel, at least nothing of any real consequence to anyone I think, but I was told later on in life that conflicts resolved by me were resolved not because of my words usually but because of who I was and what I stood for mostly. Some people felt dumb when i stepped in others felt juvenile to an extent and generally respected me for not being one-sided in a situation.
This complex hasn't been all praise and respect though. I have had to earn that my whole life one individual at a time. I had my fair shares of brawls in the street, encounters with law enforcement when someone or I lost tempers. I've had my trials that just seemed to go forever and ruts that I have believed would never end sometimes. Life is not always a hero's tale as I wish it were. In fact, I hope for learning trials most days so I can see the perspective of those around me. I have found I can do this in a hundred different ways without getting burned I can help people who are morally in a bad situation without bringing myself down to that level myself. In the words of Gordon B. Hinckley, "You don't need to grab hold of an electric fence to see if there is a charge, especially when there are high voltage signs posted all around you."
